yup, the big connector on the ECU is similar. the ABS connector is on the chassis wiring harness (the really big harness that runs along the far right side (from the front) of the engine bay).

just pulled the ABS module out (left the hydraulics in place... don't really want to bother bleeding brakes when I don't have to), and I am going to change the MOSFETs that are the likely suspect. I was just reviewing what I did for first start up, and remembered I had a little bit of an electrical surge. I did not think much of it, but I am almost sure that is what killed it (same problem as here)