Ok, so to make a long story short, last year when I was a freshman in college I cheated on my girlfriend of two years. I felt terrible about it, and I told her everything. After a few months, everything was back 2 good. Since then, I am still with my girlfriend and I havent even thought about cheating. I just recently talked to the girl that I cheated on my girlfriend with, and it turns out, she is coming back to visit a few people at school for a day. (She transferred after last year) Anyway, as much as I hate myself for what I did, I was pretty good friends with her, and I would love to hang out with her again. The problem is, we have kind of a physical chemistry that tempts us both whenever we see eachother. Any advice on this problem?? I am NOT going to cheat on my girlfriend ever again, but I cant deny that me and this girl are attracted to eachother, and I just dont want things to get akward. Any advice???

Dump your current girlfriend because she obviously isn't the right girl for you.

If she was, you wouldn't cheat on her. Your relationship is clearly missing something.

Dump your current girlfriend because she obviously isn't the right girl for you.

If she was, you wouldn't cheat on her. Your relationship is clearly missing something.

I know it seems that way, but honestly, when I cheated on her, I was away from home for the first time ever and i let my hormones get the best of me. I took a good look at our relationship then and I decided that I love my girlfriend very much and I believe she is the one for me. It's nothing emotional with this other girl, its just the physical attraction that I think might make things akward.

Ugh. If you are a reasonably intelligent person as it appears you are in that you can coherently construct sentences, you don't need any advice. Figure out what you want, think through the ramifications, and do it. No one here knows you as well as you should know yourself and your situation.

I can't imagine your girlfriend wanting you to hang out with this chick -- and rightfully so. I would think that would/should matter more to you than anything else.

If thats the case, then what are you worried about?

But if I was your girl, I'd probably feel pretty damn uncomfortable if I knew you were going to visit the chick you cheated with.

Here's how I see it...

Option 1: Have "alone-time" with yourself for 5 consectutive hours or have relations with your girl A LOT before seeing this other woman. If you beat the sexual tension out of yourself you'll be far less tempted to do anything at all.


Option 2: Tell the mistress, to lose your number when she's in town and to not even think about seeing you. Don't play with fire. Is it really worth the risk? What's to be gained between you and another girl pretending to be platonic when you really just want rip each other's clothes off? Nothing, you and she are merely teasing each other and creating even more sexual tension.

or

Option 3. Tell the mistress, that you would love to see her but the only way you will see her is if she AND yourgirlfriend hangout together.....this prolly wouldn't work out well. Girls can sense when another broad wants their meat. I wouldn't advise this.

Here's my advice. Dont put yourself in this position. Honestly, if you have any respect for your gf, you wont be hanging out with the girl you cheated on her with.

Does your girlfriend know how to read the internet? If she does you might already be in trouble. I am suprised you are looking for opinions on something like this on the internet.

Here's my advice. Dont put yourself in this position. Honestly, if you have any respect for your gf, you wont be hanging out with the girl you cheated on her with.
I concur. If you don't want to cheat again, avoid seeing her.
If you do, you'll hit it.
Chemistry is more powerful than your will, especially when you're not married.

I know it seems that way, but honestly, when I cheated on her, I was away from home for the first time ever and i let my hormones get the best of me. I took a good look at our relationship then and I decided that I love my girlfriend very much and I believe she is the one for me. It's nothing emotional with this other girl, its just the physical attraction that I think might make things akward.

Loneliness is just excuses. Just hang out with the gal, fcuk her or whatever... let nature takes its course.

Here's my advice. Dont put yourself in this position. Honestly, if you have any respect for your gf, you wont be hanging out with the girl you cheated on her with.

i++;

Ok, so to make a long story short, last year when I was a freshman in college I cheated on my girlfriend of two years. I felt terrible about it, and I told her everything. After a few months, everything was back 2 good. Since then, I am still with my girlfriend and I havent even thought about cheating. I just recently talked to the girl that I cheated on my girlfriend with, and it turns out, she is coming back to visit a few people at school for a day. (She transferred after last year) Anyway, as much as I hate myself for what I did, I was pretty good friends with her, and I would love to hang out with her again. The problem is, we have kind of a physical chemistry that tempts us both whenever we see eachother. Any advice on this problem?? I am NOT going to cheat on my girlfriend ever again, but I cant deny that me and this girl are attracted to eachother, and I just dont want things to get akward. Any advice???
:grouphug: Yeah bangem both :3some:

cheat on your girlfiend again... it gets easier each time.

LOL!

Here's how I see it...

Option 1: Have "alone-time" with yourself for 5 consectutive hours or have relations with your girl A LOT before seeing this other woman. If you beat the sexual tension out of yourself you'll be far less tempted to do anything at all.


Option 2: Tell the mistress, to lose your number when she's in town and to not even think about seeing you. Don't play with fire. Is it really worth the risk? What's to be gained between you and another girl pretending to be platonic when you really just want rip each other's clothes off? Nothing, you and she are merely teasing each other and creating even more sexual tension.

or

Option 3. Tell the mistress, that you would love to see her but the only way you will see her is if she AND yourgirlfriend hangout together.....this prolly wouldn't work out well. Girls can sense when another broad wants their meat. I wouldn't advise this.

+1

I concur. If you don't want to cheat again, avoid seeing her.
If you do, you'll hit it.
Chemistry is more powerful than your will, especially when you're not married.Being married will not change anything.

But you are right about avoiding her. There is no reason to hang out with her unless you're looking for trouble.

Big Mike, Big Mike, Big Mike...Mikeyyyyyy I was pretty good friends with her, and I would love to hang out with her again. Do you want to bang this chic again or what? Don't give us this good friends BS.

1. You are not a dog, so don't act like it. You know that she would just be a fvck.
2. If you still want to fvck, maybe you shouldn't be in a commited relationship?
3. There will also be temptations in life, don't think with your penis. please tell me that you have a stronger will than that?

Lets put the shoe on ther foot, so to speak, lets say that this waz your girl meeting up with an old fvck buddy, how would you feel? :kiss: Good luck.

Invite your GF, get them both drunk and tell your GF that since you cheated on her she should get you back by kissing the other girl.. BING BANG BOOM!! You get a tripple decker hot dog and tuna sandwich!

Do not see her unless you are planning on breaking up with your current girlfriend. You will cause your girl to be insecure about your relationship and that will cause some serious friction between the two of you. Not only that but there is the strong possibility that the new girl will take some mixed signals away from your visit.

It's okay to be attracted to other girls when you are in a monogamous relationship. It's a fact of nature that human males are horny bastards (especially at your age) and want to bang every attractive female they see. However, based on the story you gave, it is NOT okay to act on that desire.

If you want to meet her for lunch and tell her that seeing her is a bad idea, you might be able to but YOU MUST TALK TO YOU CURRENT GIRLFRIEND ABOUT THAT. She may even want to be present for that conversation just to be sure. Remember, you're the one that farked up which means you are automatically suspect and must go out of your way to be transparent to your current girl.

Good luck! You are in a tough situation and I don't envy you.

if you see her you can pretty much say goodbye to your current girlfriend, im speaking from the gut the girl i was dating a while back had a platonic best friend in the world guy that she would talk to and go see (she said things never got that way between them...ugh)...guess who's she dating now. Guess how i felt about it when it happenned. guess how i sometimes still feel about my confidence, she made me out to be a jealous and possessive guy when in all honesty she was the one messing things up as i found out months later...and i actually f*cking felt guilty about the way i treated her when i was the one being played.

ya so dont be an asshole...you love your girlfriend enough not to cheat on her then stay the hell away from this other girl. Otherwise i'll have words for you having proverbally been in your girlfriends shoes.

If you love your Girlfriend you will have nothing more to do with this other girl ever again. Delete her phone number and never talk to her again. There is no such thing as a guy being "just friends" with a girl. It dosen't exist. And you owe it to your Girlfriend to not see this other woman. You must have a wonderful Girlfriend for her to forgive you for something like that, and it sounds like to me she deserves your respect for that.

Go watch the movie, "When Harry met Sally"

cheat on your girlfiend again... it gets easier each time.

LOL!

You and Dominion crack me up. Since I KNOW you two better than that, I take it as Monte Python-style humor.....and spit cawffee all over my dadburn keyboard. Beside....you guys took the line I was gonna use. Now I have to think up something else.... :rock:


now....my advice to Big Mike would have to be, reverse the situation and answer your own question.

"Only when the grasshopper can see himself in the mirror will he truly realize his hind legs bend the wrong way."

(I'm making this up as I go.....)

Well, she is coming up here anyway, to visit her old roomate. The school is too small to avoid her completely, so I might just say hi to her and leave. You are right, it wouldn't be right to hang out with her at all after what happened and I won't put myslef in that position again. Thanks for the advice all, I guess I already knew what to do, I just needed to hear it from others.

3-somes arent cheating.

3-somes arent cheating.

Why do you always bring up sheep? :rollingla

Let me see this ...

First of all, I guess your girlfriend really love you. I mean ALOT. and I think either shes dumb(no offence man), or she just dont know what MAN is made of.
(For me is that, man is something that if man cheated once, they can cheat for life)

but At least she can still trust you like shes blind or something. I guess Love can blindfold anybody.

So ...

You gotta really think that, should you go see this chick? I mean you KNOW that you WILL bang her as soon as you see her. Is it worth it? dumping someone loves you THAT much for your 5 minute (ahh, maybe longer, who knows :rofl: ) of sex.

and dont EVEN think that you CAN hide from your gf (if you decided to go fuxk that chick). Women, seriously they all got some sort of sense that you're thinking(or did something) of another woman. So DONT even try.

To keep it simple :

Dump your GF right now, make the pain short. and try to move on while you fuxk that chick the next day.

OR

Forget about that Chick. Stay with your GF and BE HONEST from now on.

Enuff said.

Sheep never cheat!

Why do you always bring up sheep? :rollingla

Whenever someone asks about situations like this......I always advise them to reverse the situation. Imagine it's your girl friend with this dilema......what would you want her to do?

Whenever someone asks about situations like this......I always advised them to reverse the situation. Imagine it's your girl friend with this dilema......what would you want her to do?

Very good point. People are jealous and territorial by nature. While this is obviously less serious, I had a situation recently where my ex kept calling and i'd answer the phone and talk while I was hanging out with my current girlfriend. We had a few "fights" about it and I realized I wouldn't like it if the situation was reversed.

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.
you did the right thing

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.You handled it like a champ.

Time to post pics of said girls :evil_laug

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.Wow, you mean not all humans are dumb? :p:

Good choice, man. You just saved yourself a whole truck load of drama.

You have a lot to learn grasshopper

I'm proud of everyone here. I expected the first 6 or 7 posts to be "PIIDB".

Although, if your current girl doesn't let you PIIDB, then by PIIDB of another girl, it's not really cheating is it? That would imply that your gf allows you to PIIDB. You can't cheat on a butt you can't get. Follow?

Your not married to this broad, go slay it!

you did the right thing


absolutely

Your not married to this broad, go slay it!


Based on his statement about his gf being 'the one', I'd say he intends to marry her. Cheating is for losers......if you aren't happy with who your with, then leave that person (it's called respect). Then you will be free to PIIDB of anyone you like without any guilt :D:

Hey can you PM me the other girl's number? I'm sure she needs a shouldr to cry on right about now. I'm all about helping. :shocking: :cuddle:

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.

How come so many people online are always into PIIDB? Yes I know what it means. You guys do know what comes out of there right? It's no big secret. We even know what causes that! You do also realize that is an action that can be done to anything (human, animal, or otherwise) of any gender with a posterior don't you? That in itself worries me as it opens up a whole new world of possibilities. I'll stick to the good old traditional location and leave PIIDB for people who don't have it good enough.

guys who are "smaller" like it, or guys who have women who've passed semi trucks through thier nether reagions ;)

Don't see her. Don't ask the girlfriend to see her. Imagine how she would feel when you ask permission to see the girl you cheated on her with! I know I'd be crushed. The other girl is the past so keep her there. Bringing her back will only damage your current relationship.

[QUOTE=Big_Mike_4488]Well, she is coming up here anyway, to visit her old roomate. The school is too small to avoid her completely, so I might just say hi to her and leave.QUOTE]

IMO, this is just your justification for saying that it's ok to see her. :nono:

Ok, I talked to the girl. I told her that after what happened last year, it wouldnt be fair to my girlfriend if we were to hang out. She told me that she is fine with just bein friends, but still wanted to see me. I told her that we lost the chance to be friends when we did what we did. That was it. Thanks for the advice, I guess I already knew what to do, just needed to hear it from others.

My post from earlier this morning dazygirl, its all taken care of. Thanks for the advice though, I agree with you.

How come so many people online are always into PIIDB? Yes I know what it means. You guys do know what comes out of there right? It's no big secret. We even know what causes that! You do also realize that is an action that can be done to anything (human, animal, or otherwise) of any gender with a posterior don't you? That in itself worries me as it opens up a whole new world of possibilities. I'll stick to the good old traditional location and leave PIIDB for people who don't have it good enough.
True. However, if your wife asked you this evening to PIIDB, what would you say?

Probably no. She wouldn't ask though and I've already been there and done that in the past. It's no big deal.

Here's how I see it...

Option 1: Have "alone-time" with yourself for 5 consectutive hours or have relations with your girl A LOT before seeing this other woman. If you beat the sexual tension out of yourself you'll be far less tempted to do anything at all.


Option 2: Tell the mistress, to lose your number when she's in town and to not even think about seeing you. Don't play with fire. Is it really worth the risk? What's to be gained between you and another girl pretending to be platonic when you really just want rip each other's clothes off? Nothing, you and she are merely teasing each other and creating even more sexual tension.

or

Option 3. Tell the mistress, that you would love to see her but the only way you will see her is if she AND yourgirlfriend hangout together.....this prolly wouldn't work out well. Girls can sense when another broad wants their meat. I wouldn't advise this.

You forgot Option 4:

Get the two of them together, they will discover how much they like each other AND you, and you'll wind of having a hot three-way with the girl you love and the girl you're jonesin' for!

:rock:

You forgot Option 4:

Get the two of them together, they will discover how much they like each other AND you, and you'll wind of having a hot three-way with the girl you love and the girl you're jonesin' for!

:rock:
blast, you people are terrible. I was trying to be sincere and you ruin my good intent with your blapshemous heathenistic hedonismal rationalle. But yet...I cannot deny veracity of your banter.

2 IN THE COOT 1 IN THE POOT!

How come so many people online are always into PIIDB? Yes I know what it means. You guys do know what comes out of there right? It's no big secret. We even know what causes that! You do also realize that is an action that can be done to anything (human, animal, or otherwise) of any gender with a posterior don't you? That in itself worries me as it opens up a whole new world of possibilities. I'll stick to the good old traditional location and leave PIIDB for people who don't have it good enough.
I don't know what it means....Put It In Da Bootay? Am I close?

To put it simply. IT FEELS GREAT. Yes there are certain risks involved, but that's what enemas are for. You can't really speak against it until you've done it. There's much information that details how to go about doing it. It requires much more attention to detail than inserting a letter in a mailbox *wink*wink.* All in all, it's something different, another way of getting to the end of the road, and that's what makes the journey fun. That's why we like sharing.

I don't know what it means....Put It In Da Bootay? Am I close?

To put it simply. IT FEELS GREAT. Yes there are certain risks involved, but that's what enemas are for. You can't really speak against it until you've done it. There's much information that details how to go about doing it. It requires much more attention to detail than inserting a letter in a mailbox *wink*wink.* All in all, it's something different, another way of getting to the end of the road, and that's what makes the journey fun. That's why we like sharing.

You stick your letter in a malebox? Whaaaaaaaat?

Sharing is caring.

3-somes arent cheating.
i agree..........

You can't really speak against it until you've done it.
I guess I have every right to speak against it then. It's nothing special. It's definitely not what everyone makes it out to be. All you ever see on forums is PIIDB (yes you basically got it correct). It's turning into some huge phenomenon. I can think of many things to do that are far more enjoyable.

I can think of many things to do that are far more enjoyable.

That's for another thread. :cwm27:

I'm waiting......

Dump your current girlfriend because she obviously isn't the right girl for you.

If she was, you wouldn't cheat on her. Your relationship is clearly missing something.

NO WAY! As terrible as it sounds, I'm with you...you have to cheat on her at least ONCE...that's the only way you can find out how much you really love her. I felt terrible, too...and now I am in the EXACT same boat as you are.

I'm not sure if this helps, but I personally don't go out with her anymore...it's too risky.

Accually, on another note...

Have you ever seen the movie Titanic? Remember when the old lady says women always have those deep dark secrets no one ever knows about? ...well, so do we.

Ok, so to make a long story short, last year when I was a freshman in college I cheated on my girlfriend of two years. I felt terrible about it, and I told her everything. After a few months, everything was back 2 good. Since then, I am still with my girlfriend and I havent even thought about cheating. I just recently talked to the girl that I cheated on my girlfriend with, and it turns out, she is coming back to visit a few people at school for a day. (She transferred after last year) Anyway, as much as I hate myself for what I did, I was pretty good friends with her, and I would love to hang out with her again. The problem is, we have kind of a physical chemistry that tempts us both whenever we see eachother. Any advice on this problem?? I am NOT going to cheat on my girlfriend ever again, but I cant deny that me and this girl are attracted to eachother, and I just dont want things to get akward. Any advice???

Keep you dick in your pants.

did you f*ck the b*tch yet or what?..... LOL

did you f*ck the b*tch yet or what?..... LOL
wow im trying to think of a way that you could have put that more crudely....but its not coming.

I can think of about a dozen.

Wow, haha, talk about old news. Like I said I told her not to come so I havent seen or talked to her since then.